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What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you're a man reading this, you've undoubtedly asked yourself these questions-but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now. In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives-from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality-to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise. "It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," writes David Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine." The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge-and reward-for today's man: to discover the "unity of heart and spine" through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment. Book jacket.

Customer Reviews:

• You dont have to like it, simply understand it!
  I don't know why I depend on this book when I feel weak, depressed, sad, or passive. I read also when I am in need for inspiration and courage for direction in life and love. I find that I didn't agree with his ideas but in time something he wrote will come to mind and start making sense and feel exactly like he wrote. For example "live as if your father were dead" was one that did not hit home at first. Now that my sick father has confesed that he will not make it for 3 more months, I feel grief and pain, yet a liberation of something profound.
  
  I also find that when I am not following my deepest purpose and not living with integrity, I feel dumb, slow, depressed, and unattractive. When I live with purpose and integrity, I am energetic, alive, happy, and very attractive and charismatic. My experience with every male friend who is not living to his potential, is always, always because of his passiveness, fear of following his purpose, and/or putting women first. It is sad but very true. I recently recommended this book to a friend who's on the gray zone of life. After reading this book, he projected his current life problem's to what David Deida talks about. This book is causing him to wake up and keeps challenging his mind.
  
  The most painful parts are "dont change your mind to please a woman", "she doesnt really want to be number one", and "dont force the femenine to make decisions". The best relationship and time with women were when I was at my peak. Going to college, exercising, working hard, inspired, productive and full of purpose. Women flowed constantly in my direction. They would even ask me out and pay for dinner or any opportunity to be with me. I then met my ex girlfriend who loved me for what I was and who I was being, then suddenly I stopped doing all these things just to be with her and she was becoming distant and unattracted to me. She even mentioned that I didnt have a backbone or direction anymore. I lost my direction and purpose and it all went down. I learned the bad way, and continue to learn everyday from this book. Please give it time, and notice how it all ties with the experiences in your life....more info
• Pablum. Not Insight.
  This book seems simply to be a free-ranging rant and reflection by Mr. Deida as he coins new catchphrases and "techniques" for developing intimacy and sexual mastery. While not offensive, the work is intellectually vacant and smacks of unsubstantiated pop psychology wrapped in short, superficial chapters. The single and valuable message within the book can be summarized here: True intimacy requires a strong sense of self combined with the ability to open oneself to the risks and passions of another human. If you can believe that, save yourself the cost of this book and research elsewhere!...more info
• This Book Will Anger ALL Romantics
  I tossed this book, in disgust, across the room a number of times. However; I was certain that such a viceral reaction must be coming from somewhere deep.
  
  Deida says what we all DON'T want to hear. Many of us have this romantic notion that we are far more evolved (in terms of the relationship dance) than we really are. I know that I always felt that a great woman would love me all the more for my strength. My mistake was (and Deida points this out very well) in believing that passing all of life's many tests (historically)and being sensitive and emotive about my feelings would be exactly what my woman would want in a strong man. Many women don't want to ever smell a "whiff" of fear on their man.
  
  Men, let your male friends see you sweat and fearful. They too have fears and do not judge or dismiss your strength because of those fears. In reality they think you more the man because you can go into the cave tembling but still slay the dragon. Leave your fears unnoticed to your lady. She doesn't want to see them and the relationship is not better because you have revealed them to her.
  
  Otherwise, a non-ending dance of "test" will develop....more info
• does the PBS alpha-male exist?
  When I first got interested in weight lifting in high school, my mother told me that girls didn't like men who looked muscular. Luckily, I was in it as much for sports as anything and ignored her. During my peak period of working out (and even to some extent today), I got a lot of groping and stroking from women that other men in the same settings weren't getting.
  
  So what's the point of this? What women are actually like and what they tell themselves they are like are not always the same. This is not a very PC perspective, but love and sex do not conform to our own personal or political philosophies. I figured this out before getting David Deida's book, and frankly the anti-PC attitude of the book attracted me to it despite the fact that David Deida seems to be a sort of Dr. Phil meets Baba Roshi character. I can't quite agree with the reviewer who said he is embarassed to have it in his house, but I would keep it in an out-of-the-way place.
  
  As to the actual content of the book, some of it could be very good for you if you haven't figured it out yet, while some of it seems like mumbo-jumbo. On general themes like male-female relations and masculine self-control, he seems right on target. Other points, though, like absorbing promiscuous lust, circulating it throughout your body by deep breathing and then projecting back into the world as love just seem hokey....more info
• Confirms my suspicions
  This was an excellent book. After the recent failure of my 23 year marriage - it helped me to understand my part in the failure. That will help me heal and be more forgiving as well. Many of the key concepts I had suspected, and had been experimenting with in my interactions with women. I recommend this book for everyone, male, female, straight or gay....more info
• Unfortunately, Deida's understanding of most women is correct
  I was in a relationship for eight years which ultimately failed, and this book is to some degree showing me where I went wrong. Although I would like to think that there are some women out there to whom his his teachings don't apply to, I think most women are as irrational as this book suggests. Its a great book to help you understand most women and how to ignite their sexual attraction for you. What I find unfortunate is Deida is reminding me that that the burden of generating romantic interest falls on men, but if you want a girl in your life his is a good book to teach you how to keep the attraction alive....more info
• Over the Top?
  A bit dramatic and over the top, but some interesting ideas about what to do with your impending orgasm. Is this Tantra? is happiness a result of secret initiations and achieving superiority or of opening up to your ordinariness and allowing the miracle of the everyday to manifest itself. Why polish the nonexistent mirror?...more info
• This book will turn a man into a whipped sissy
  The title of this book first caught my eye. However, once I read this book, I found out that "The Way of the Superior Man" is nothing more than a man giving other men terribly wrong advice on how to behave toward the opposite gender.
  
  David tells men to be kind, loving, supportive, gentle, and caring toward women. He believes men should cater to a woman's every need and always be there for them. That's fine and dandy in an alternate world but here in the 21st century United States, those nice guy tactics will either get a man nowhere or lead him to a broken heart.
  
  Basically, David is telling men to play the "nice guy" role. The terrible truth is if you follow this book's advice and compliment women, then the women will think along the lines of "Wow if he thinks I'm hot, imagine the hotter guys I can attract." This is mainly a problem in the western world. Nice guys are seen as the losers and jerks the winners. David wants men to continue to be meek losers.
  
  It is very ironic that women want to be dominated in a relationship yet they complain that men don't respect them. Women truly are their own worst enemies.
  
  If this book is helpful to anyone at all, it will be to men who are middle-aged or older. This is because women only want nice guys after the women themselves are past their prime. When women are no longer hot and have been around the block more times than the Good Humor man, then they go after the nice guy. Then they suddenly want respect after living the life of a morally bankrupt, high-maintenance, gold-digging tramp.
  
  It is sad to admit the fact that most women, especially American women, possess a ridiculous sense of entitlement. Yet, besides their bodies, these shallow women have nothing else to offer anyone. Most young women today do not even know how to cook a meal, clean a room in a house, or do laundry. They are merely gold-digging psychotics.
  
  Unfortunately, the only way for a man to succeed in modern relationships in the United States is to jettison all of the advice given in this book.
  
  A man must then become "a player" because the player game is the complete opposite of being a nice guy. Yet all its tactics of being glib, superficial and saying whatever a woman wants to hear to get her to date him absolutely WORKS. Being a nice guy who gives and has his kindness reciprocated by a woman is how things should be but women only get turned on if you play a lying, manipulative trash-talking snake character with them.
  
  Though not all women are like this, for the VAST majority, this is so true and it's almost nauseating.
  
  The minority of American women who are attracted to nice guys, have good personalities, and are half-way intelligent or talented are ugly women. And this is because they have to make up for how unattractive they are. If a girl in a bar asks you to buy her a drink, get her a glass of water.
  
  
  
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• Life takes a whole new meaning!
  I don't think I have ever read anything that would have such an instantaneous effect on me. This book is absolutely amazing. I won't tell you what it is about -- there are other reviews here you can read. I will only say that you will never be the same after you read it (if you are open to its message). Life will take on a very different meaning.
  
  In one week, I went from "She does not appreciate how great I am and what I've done for her!" to being able to be fully present in the relationship. I went from "I can't deal with her constant change of opinions and tastes" to starting to be able to connect to more of who she is inside. I went from "Everything is SO difficult with her!" to being able to be open, stand straight, and not be swayed and hurt by changing tides.
  
  I am sure I am far from being a superior man still. But it's a great, and amazing, start.
  
  Also, in my opinion, you may have trouble reading this book if you think you are the only normal person around, and the whole world is out to screw up your life. If you are of this opinion, try therapy first. To really get the message in this book, you need some degree of introspection. You need to be able to see your crap for what it's worth....more info
• This book blows
  At the risk of sounding like a bored, angry teenager who spends too much time on the internet: I really thought this book blew. I didn't read much of it (Why would I take the time to read a book I didn't like). But what I did read was stupid and cheesy. I'm embarrassed to even have this book in my home....more info
• good read for some but for others it will be pretty basic
  Ultimately, Deida's advice here boils down to "be a man" without buying into blind macho-ism, something that the vast majority of males in our matriarchal society fail to do.
  
  Deida has a perspective that our culture has lost and he advocates the following philosophies
  
  1) Be a man, live for yourself and attain your purpose in live, embrace your passions at all costs even if it means that you must deal with the disapproval of others (family, significant other, etc.) Be the leader, the dominant figure, and let others follow. Do not buy into the "political correctness" of 50/50 between men and woman because this does away with the polarity on which successful relationships are dependant.
  
  2) Eliminate the fears that hold you back, for they are artificial devices which exist to hold you down.
  
  3) Be real and truthful, stop changing yourself to please the people/woman in your life because that is a blatant lie and will not benefit either one of you, embrace your spiritual flow without seeking approval.
  
  Of course there is a lot more that goes into it, but this is about as much as I can tell you without giving too much of a spoiler.
  
  
  This is all good information. Problem is, up to this point, for those of you who already understand the nature of the male/female dynamic and masculine/feminine you are probably going "well durrrrrrrr".
  
  I give it four stars though because it is indeed a good read for males who have been brainwashed by society into believing this "men aren't allowed to be men and women aren't allowed to be women" propaganda. And since this constitutes the majority of today's society, then the book deserves a solid rating.
  
  Couldn't give it a 5 though because for those who have already seen through the social programming/brainwashing that goes on here in America, it's all going to be common sense with a few bits of applicable wisdom here and there....more info
• Read This Book
  This book is written with a depth of insight and wisdom that come from obvious experiential knowledge by the author. Deida has filled a gap in literature with this book. It is a one of a kind, cutting edge book.
  
  As someone who has thought for a long time that I have not lived up to my own masculinity and didn't know where to turn for advice, this book was a wonderful inspiration to become more of a "man". Deida's idea of a man isn't the macho tough guy, nor the soft spoken nice guy who seeks approval. His idea of a man is someone who knows their purpose and pursues it with passion. It is someone who doesn't seek outside validation. He understands his woman and her moods and can stay strong and stable during them, rather than acting defensively. It is someone who is unshakable in his loving, and with his openness, passes his woman's and the world's tests.
  
  This book truly gave me inspiration and insight to move beyond many of my "mama's boy" habits and become a more confident, self-validating man. And because of this it has made an enormous amount of difference in the quality my current relationship and the amount of attraction in it.
  
  Thank you David Deida.
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• Difficult concepts for some...
  Here's some of the chapter headings in this book:
  
  She Wants the "Killer" In You
  
  Turn Your Lust Into Gifts
  
  Use Her Attractiveness As A Slingshot Through Appearance
  
  Don't Force The Feminine To Make Decisions
  
  You Will Often Want More Than One Woman
  
  Each Woman Has a "Temperature" That Can Heal Or Irritate You
  
  Controversial stuff, huh? The concepts in this book are difficult for many people who were children in the seventies. You didn't have to be raised by hippies to have been exposed to the egalitarian mood of that age. Some boys were given dolls. Some girls were given toy guns. Almost all had equality preached to them.
  
  "Boys - there's nothing wrong with you being nurturing."
  
  "Girls - you can be warriors."
  
  In my case we had sex ed. every year from third grade until the last year of high school. We spent a long time on the concept that anyone can be or do anything he or she wants to be or do.
  
  Preachers of equality weren't wrong. Many women have served well in the military. Many men have served well as the primary caregivers in their family.
  
  None of that should take away from the fundamental truth: men and women ARE different. The reactions of the seventies were due to a lack of respect and understanding being accorded to one sex and these reactions weren't just about sex it was also about race too. As a society, we've improved.
  
  Still, given that conditioning, many of the concepts in this book are perceived as offensive. Just look at some of the other reviews.
  
  Male and female ARE opposite. One of Deida's main points is that men are driven by a sense of mission while a woman's search for love touches her core. The book helps one explore these concepts and what they mean to an individual. It's a classic in the sense that, as you live, you get something new out of it every time you read it because you start to realize more about yourself and others.
  
  The way I best understood what truth Deida was leading his reader to is to think about what terms and in what way people criticize others. A man without a sense of mission is characterized as someone who's wishy-washy, weak and ungrounded. A woman without a sense of mission isn't vilified in those same terms (unless she's in a leadership position). It's a bad for members of both sexes to be perceived as wishy-washy but most would say a man is criticized more roundly.
  
  What about an unloving woman? She's called cold, harsh - a bitch! An unloving man isn't excoriated that way. People are more likely to say he's misunderstood.
  
  These truths are not self-evident. Men and women don't think and aren't gratified by the same things. Keeping in mind the differences can immeasurably improve one's romantic life and work life. It can prevent divorce or get you married to the right person. The importance of the wisdom in this book cannot be understated - it deserves not one reading but many....more info
• It's ok....
  I kind of bought this book on a whim, and its an ok book...nothing to new though, and once the author started using foul language it just kind of put a bad taste in my mouth...
  
  Conversations With God books 1, 2, & 3 are waaaaaaay cooler than this book that really anyone could have written......more info
• thumbs up
  I definitely recommend this book. It has helped me become mentally stronger, as well as better understand what is going on in the mind of my girlfriend. I think I am now giving off a better aura of confidence, which she notices (either consciously or subconsciously). I think I have earned more respect from her. The only reason I didn't give this 5 stars is because I didn't understand some of the "mystical" ideas Deida presented in the book (i.e. how beer and music are feminine things). I do tend to like a lot of Taoist ideas, and Deida uses these a lot....more info
• recognising that men and women are different
  In this day and age of equalness it is is good to see that men and women are allowed to be different and how to deal with this. It is time that we recognise and honour how each can bring their own strengths to a relationship, and in this way creating strong bonds rather than grounds to differ. Deida has created a new way to look at this and to find and apply solutions. Give Him Back His Balls
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• The way of the Superior Man
  This is amazing. I purchase this book in volumn and give it to friends... men and woman....more info
• Davis Deida is amazing.
  I came across this book through a Tony Robbins seminar that I attended. It clearly describes how important it is for a man to stay in his masculine and a woman to remain in her feminine. This is something that we have sadly lost her in America. Great read!...more info
• Wow. Holy Common Sense.
  This book doesnt offer anything you dont know. The chapters provide vary vague content, along the lines of Be a great man, but not too great. find "your edge and lean beyond it".
  
  in my opinion this book is simply a collection of famous quotes that are great to hear but have no practical purpose.
  
  Live your life to the fullest! thanks, I didnt know this before. ...more info
• Rocked my world.
  There are only a few books I can say had an impact on my life. This book changed me. I can't recommend this highly enough, especially for men. Deida lays out three stages of growth we can go through in our relationships. In the end we find that being an evolved man means being strong enough to have the heart that the macho jerk lacks and also to have the spine that the new age wimp lacks.
  
  I wish someone had given me this book when I was a teenager. I'm so glad to have it now!...more info
• NOT about stereotypes -- it's for people who seek passion
  David Deida is well known and admired and his work is deep and interesting. I just wanted to respond to some of the reviews here by people who view David's view of romance as being a shallow throwback to the 50's, with a jerk of a guy and a submissive woman. That ain't it. Those people apparently didn't read the introduction. "It doesn't matter if both partners are men or women. It doesn't matter if the man plays the feminine pole or ... if you change every day who plays the masculine pole... you need an energetic polarity... You don't need this difference for love, but you do need it for ongoing sexual passion. For some people who have a more balanced sexual essence, polarity doesn't matter... they would rather have a civilized friendship full of love and human sharing without the passionate ups and downs. For these people, this book will be irrelevant, possibly even offensive. This book is written specifically for people who have a more masculine sexual essence, and their lovers, who will have a more feminine sexual essence."
  Other reviews will give you more insights, but I just wanted to specifically call out and give my viewpoint to counteract this criticism of this book. ...more info
• The Wonderful Truth that Biological Roles Still Rule
  I ripped through this book in a few hours; I just could not put it down.
  
  David Deida is the first person I've ever heard so honestly identify and poetically communicate the true nature of the male/female relationship. For women who grew up in the 70's over developing accomplishment, intelligence and independence and woke up one day realizing they were actually craving more traditional roles, this book beautifully describes why that is so.
  
  This book was recommended to me by some highly evolved people and after reading it, I can see why. Deida connects spiritual purpose as the basis of relationship fulfillment and that women -- especially the strong ones -- want nothing more than a man to be masculine enough to live his life "guided by (his) deepest truths, not (his) untended childhood wounds."
  
  It is astounding the full circle our society has made from discrimination to the dawning of equal rights and now a swing back to traditional roles. Deida exquisitely explains how the biological roles operate now, however, with an all-pervading self awareness of a man's true spiritual nature which creates his "purpose" and becomes the driver of his human relationships. Bravo!
  
  Deida reiterates the concept of "freedom" being so important for a man. On the surface, this could be a scary concept for an un-evolved woman to hear, but I found it fascinating how he discusses this as a deepening of integrity, celebration of masculinity and even goes so far as to describe it as the ultimate release of the human ego from the spiritual self. He teaches men to recognize their truest nature, part of which he describes as "build up and release" and metaphorically explains how this connects to sexual prowess, work, relationship and self understanding.
  
  This is not some "airy fairy" stuff, it is real world, real gender issue-based observation that takes the popular "Men are from Mars: Women from Venus" concept to the 10th power.
  
  Deida talks about the "polarity" of the male and feminine and I can see this is indeed the secret to the most deeply fulfilling relationships. In my mind, this book illuminates why the "feminization of men," served up so vehemently in the 1960's and 1970's, has been so damaging to relationships today. I thought I was one of the only crazy women who advocates men reclaiming their masculinity. Deida explains how a return to masculinity is not a reckless return to the Lazy-Boy-In-The-Garage-With-A-Beer-And-Football-Game brand of machismo, but a doorway to being a connected, natural and aware male who recognizes his gifts and that of his female companion as different, complementary, yet ultimately the same. There is nothing better than a man who has the unshakable maleness to see through my female emotionality and love me despite it. Deida discusses how this happens in utter detail.
  
  Grateful for these insights.
  
  
  
  
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• Perilous Concepts for the Modern Workplace
  Obviously, I am not the ideal target audience for this book.
  
  This book was recommended to me by a friend. I found it a confronting and difficult read. That said; it did seem to explain some of the unfortunate dynamics that I have witnessed between men and women in the boardroom.
  
  Deida starts from the contention that men and women are vastly different. This shouldn't be a difficult idea to defend. However, when descriptions of the feminine character seem to include notions of mindless vacillation it is hard for a woman who has earned a place in the higher echelons of business to sympathise with his point of view. Quotes such as "for the feminine, truth is a thin concept compared to the thickness of her flow of feelings" and "What your woman says is like a cloud passing in the sky; well formed, coherent, and unrecognizable moments later" raised feminist hackles I never knew I had.
  
  Putting aside my automatic response to the evolutionary behaviouralism: The book is well written and thought provoking. The short chapters make it an excellent travelling companion and the introductory paragraphs before each chapter allow rapid assimilation of ideas. The book should comfort men who are uneasy with their role as masculine beings in workplaces replete with tough, dependable women. The advice to enjoy the delightful feeling that attractive women provoke in most men but not to act upon any sexual impulse arising from it would save plenty of employers the cost and distraction of harassment cases.
  
  There is some good advice in this book. Recognising masculine and feminine traits, then selecting the most appropriate for each situation, may enable readers to be more effective in the modern workplace. Women readers will need to take a deep breath and remind themselves that Deida is talking about the superior man as compared to the inferior man and not as compared to women (whether superior or otherwise). Male readers will need to remember that, in a workplace where technical skills, contractual agreements and the supremacy of logic are the basis for success, they will be surrounded by women who act more like men and who expect to be accorded a masculine measure of respect.
  
  Unlike Henry Higgins, Deida understands that for men and women to be more like each other is not always the best basis for exciting relationships, it may, however, be a good basis for trans-gender workplace friendships.
  
  Now for the big question: Does this book help with exciting relationships outside the workplace? I'm not telling; you'll have to read it yourself!
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• A man has to act like one!
  Being a man and being a woman are things dictated to us by our bodies, basically by our sexualities. So superior man is the one who inherits his genes from the most basic form of male gene. That is why he is superior, and this book basically makes that point plenty clear. That is all. ...more info
• Good info but very convoluted
  This book is mostly accurate and the info is good, but to understand it you have to wade through all the spiritual fru-fru stuff that shrouds the book's message, which becomes quite convoluted as a result.
  
  Better alternatives would be material from David DeAngelo, or for guys just looking for practical info on meeting women, Mystery's book and course. Otherwise, this is a good choice for those who are really into this stuff and want as much info as they can get on it....more info
• Love it
  I have never felt more understood by a man than by David Deida. My husband is reading this book right now and he loves it as well. Very short chapters, very concise. Funny to be referred to as "your woman"...more info
• Honor the Poles, then Flip if You Want
  For me, the measure of a book like this is: Does it resonate with my life experience, then take me to valuable new or forgotten insights that feel like they "fit"? Deida's book does a 5-star job of this, and it is written in a particularly clear and accessible style.
  
  Reading a book like this is almost like reading a poem. Those who look for scientific validation or an argued sociological position will be disappointed. Your reaction to the book will also be personal. You probably won't like this book if you think masculine/feminine polarity has no place in a loving relationship.
  
  My recommendation for getting into the book is to look at the table of contents, pick a chapter that looks interesting, and read that chapter. I did this, and when I finally got to it, the Introduction seemed less powerful and direct than the rest.
  
  I particularly liked Deida's recognition that each of us has a complex nature. The masculine and feminine energy poles exist in each of us. His framework doesn't tie us down as individuals; rather he suggests that particular situations go better when we honor our pole and its opposite in our partner, rather than each striving for neutral....more info
• Way
  I liked the book overall. Some great insights. Changed the way I think about masculinity and femaninity. But can get repetitive and is not based on any actual research. ...more info
• not what I expected it to be
  The book was not what I expected it to be based on a friend's recommendation, but still offers enough sound advice to be worth reading once. More importantly it does a very good job of clearly stating its intended audience & purpose in the very first chapters.
  I'd recommend borrowing the book from a friend/library or reading up to that point in a bookstore to find out whether the book is for you.
  If you are the sort of person David Deida is trying to reach with the book, then by all means it should be an excellent read....more info
• Your interpretation will come from your personal consciousness
  Yes, some people find his direct use of certain words & phrases offensive (potentially to woman holding a certain point of view)...
  
  However, if your heart & mindset while reading come from a place of LOVE, then you will realize David shares from a purer source regarding the "ying & yang" within such. When you come from a place of love and understanding, the principles within this book resonate a connection to the masculine's deepest source - without any negative connotations of control or misuse. If you come from a stagnant diagnostic standpoint, or from a consciousness of reckless advancement, then this book will manifest completely different results and opinion.
  
  To truly love, from your depth while upon your purpose, is what makes a man. The "wimp", a stereotype so many people in the reviews have complained about, has become the majority of the males in our society.. those boys giving into to social constraints and material wants without truly living from their deepest passion & purpose in this life.
  
  In terms of masculine & feminine energy, we have no question become de-polarized as a society! You can see it all around us. The question isn't about what roles or careers we choose as men & women, but how we live them out - amongst social rules or expectations, with our lovers, friends, family, all the while cautiously strapped to the fears & walls we create within. There is so much research on this topic resulting from studies in demographics, divorce rates, the history of social & political seasons, men becoming more metro, women becoming overly independent & closed off, etc, that those who say David isn't founded are only correct in the point that he doesn't list enough references and credentials. (BTW, credentials are B.S.! Give me someone with credentials you find impressive, and I'll show you 10 write ups of people with half the education or experience with even more rock solid bios or "achievements")
  
  MOST IMPORTANTLY-
  This book is not about one sex being more superior or stronger than the other, yet instead a guide for men (or those individuals with a masculine core) to reopen their deepest power and resonate in all of their glory. IN TURN, through love, purpose, passion and understanding of these principles, his loving feminine partner will also be able to truly open her deepest core as she will no longer require to make up for the lack in her life.
  
  My beautiful, spontaneous, ever flowing, and ever open girlfriend & I have BOTH read this book. Our relationship and lives will never be the same! We now communicate and hold each other in more respect while upholding the depth of our deepest desires... it has launched us through the stratosphere in passion, understanding, and love for each other and ourselves.
  
  For those who ask "superior to what?.. the thought of being superior is offensive"... I SAY BE SUPERIOR TO YOURSELF! A superior man challenges himself and doesn't worry about what the rest think, do, or compare....more info
• The Way Of The OK Book
  This book is called a "spiritual guide" for men,but,as Mike Meyers Coffee Talk character would say,its neither spiritual nor a guide! This is not a "course of study" to somehow become a better man,or a happier one. Its a short book of pithy commentaries on men and their lives. It isnt "spiritual" as it deals with very everyday things like sex,love,career and self-esteem. The author has spent many years studying eastern philosophies,apparently,and like many sophisticated practicioners,seems a bit,uhm,arrogant. He makes these grand declarations about what you should do,whether doing tantric breathing,or getting a life mission. Basically he is saying,"Change! Completely! Now!" when change is slow and far from certain.WE cant spend 10 years with a Master of esoteric arts. This book will NOT change your life,but it will entertain you,and maybe cause you to think about love and sex in a bit of a new light! I came across this while looking at PUA stuff,and this is kind of in that vein. If you are trying to do long range changes to be a better and more succesful guy,especially with the opposite sex,this book makes an interesting addition. So...its OK! Worth the price? Yes. ...more info
• Wow
  Wow...In an age where men are encouraged to immasculate themselves by adopting feminine traits and where women view the feminist movement as an obligation to become more manly, this book is a heart-felt and well-thought out overview of what it means to be masculine and how masculinity and femininity compare and contrast. It also is surprisingly spiritual in it's approach to everything: women, life purpose, sex, etc. I find myself looking at the world in different ways and that when approaching everything in the manner suggested in the book I feel a certain rightness, as if I'm finally fitting the triangle into the triangle hole.
  
  As a young man raised by his mother I was astonished to discover how deeply I identified with the ideas put forth in this book, at my core. I realize I had fallen into the same trap that many men of my generation have: that women want men who are polite and don't push, that boldness goes unrewarded, that tenacity is irritating and henceforth undesirable.
  
  One of the things that the book does best is explain woman and her feminine core simply, thoroughly, and most importantly: relate-ably to men. Early in my life I was under the impression that, because men and women are social equals, we are the same. In the last few years of my life, which was the beginning of my sex life, I realized that this is completely and unequivocally untrue, and while I would occasionally obtain tidbits of insight into female psyche, I was left, more than less, in the dark. This book, however, gives a clear and concise explanation of how the feminine polarity operates. Do not take this to mean that you'll be able to understand women, in actuality this book makes it clear that women are unable to be understood on a logical level, which is the level on which men operate.
  
  Suffice it to say that this book was read with eyes wide open and eyebrows shot up from start to finish. More than any other book I have ever read, this book not only opened up parts of me to myself that I had heretofore brushed off as flighty, fantastical, wrong, or simply ignored, but it had me understand, come to terms with, and accept them as fundamental pieces of who I am as a being. It is a very special piece of literature that is able to do that, especially in such clear in simple language, and one of which I have not seen equaled....more info